Rian passed in the morning of December 31st 2020, at home in my arms where he wanted to be. If you knew Rian, you were a better person for having met him. His heart and soul were generous and genuine. With a free and adventurous spirit. His love, laughter, wit, positivity and perseverance were just some of the gifts he gave to all that loved him. He was a carpenter by trade. But Rian could accomplish anything he set his mind on. We had the blessing of reuniting after 35 yrs and falling in love deeper and truer than ever. He is survived by his wife Tammy Arevalo, his loving sisters Maureen O'Reilly (Russ), Janet Haworth (Bob), and brother Bob James (Lynn). My daughters he loved like his own. Nieces and nephews that adored their Unc. His loving parents, brother and son that have passed, but must be remembered. Father and best friend Thomas (Tim) Molloy O'Reilly. his beloved mother Thelma Francis O'Reilly, brother Ronnie James and beloved son Jason. Born in RI but raised in Mount Helix/San Diego. He graduated from Monte Vista High in 1974. He loved life to the fullest! A beautiful man inside and out. By Merrit Malloy When I die Give what's left of me away To children And old men that wait to die. And if you need to cry, Cry for your brother Walking the street beside you. And when you need me, Put your arms Around anyone And give them What you need to give to me. I want to leave you something, Something better than words Or sounds. Look for me In the people I've known Or loved, And if you cannot give me away, At least let me live on in your eyes And not your mind. You can love me most By letting Hands touch hands, By letting bodies touch bodies, And by letting go Of children That need to be free. Love doesn't die, People do. So, when all that's left of me Is love, Give me away.